Finding Fault

We are always looking toward the other person.  We try to understand the other through comparison, by finding fault.  Our ability to compare is the natural outcome of the self absorbed.  We are all basically second hand people.  Our identity or selfness is the result of an ideal image. That image is the culmination of our exposure to outside influences. The influences of our rather limited existence.  The fact is we seldom understand our own motivations, the obvious ones as well as the hidden ones. Understanding the self created is an almost impossible task. Introspection that is not a result of our conditioned minds is very difficult and requires one give up all psychological attachments.  To be empty is to be without an identity.  It is to find the true integrated moment of existence.  An existence while physically individualistic is realized as intimately connected.   Connection that is experiencing in a moment of complete psychological anonymity.

You cannot will your self to be what you are not.  No practice will change who you actually are.  But you may see through the self created to a level of understanding that negates the self of motivation, greed, and jealousy.  What you must understand is that you cannot change the imprint of a conditioned mind.  Your mind remains what it is.  But you can understand it completely and that understanding is the beginning of a mind that negates its conditioning and in so doing opens the door to a different level of existence.  One that does not think in terms of its self.  It no longer measures according to an ideal self. In fact there is no longer a self that measures.  There is only the moment and a mind that allows that moment to be what it is.  Seeing the true reality of the moment changes everything.  The mind is very quiet. It understands not through comparison but through the unconditioned vulnerability of a mind that has compassion for all existence.