Sexual Communion

Friends have asked me to write about the truth of sexual intimacy. It is a very complex and deep area of human existence. The "subject" of sex has many stigma's attached to it. One is captured by ones own culture, experience, religious and ethical standards that may dictate how one is to act with regard to an area of human activity that is very important. All existence emanates a pro-creative energy force. In the human condition there is great difficulty in understanding this energy force because we are a captive of a consciousness that is seeking its own image in what is. Humans essentially are capable of creating a "reality of thought". We project the perceived reality of thought as the illusion of a self that is seeking its own expansion in what is.


If you have read previous writings (meditations) on this blog then you may realize that the self is seeking attachment that defines and gives legitimacy to thoughts reality. A person may be defined by religious affiliation, political ideals, or cultural norms. These associations establish rules of conduct that determine what is acceptable sexual behavior. They tend to require different degrees of suppression with regard to sexual desire. When there is suppression without understanding, then the result is deviancy. The pro-creative energy force must find an outlet. If it does not then there is the possibility of psychological instability. A psychosis of confusion may take hold that results in different degrees of psychological and/or physical conflict. confusion and violence. Such a being is the extreme of a mind that is caught in its own reality. It is the projection of a conditioned consciousness that has been and is being destructive rather than creative.


How do we understand this pro-creative energy force? We must first free ourselves of all our opinions and conclusions that are the result of our conditioning. If we are stuck in the rut of religious opinion be it Christian, Muslim, Hindu, Buddhist or xyz then we will never be able to realize an understanding that transcends the illusion of a self that knows. One must be able to go beyond ones cultural prejudices. Put away all your new age non-sense, what you think you know about Tantra or the Kama Sutra. The truth comes out of emptiness, out of the unknown, that which is absent the self absorbed.


Love is the outcome of selflessness. If you are using your sexuality to acquire, to own, to become attached, then your relationship will be superficial. You will engage in the sex act as a means of domination, either aggressively or passively. When you become psychologically attached then there is expectation. It becomes a conditional relationship that feeds on manipulation and mutual exploitation. There is no freedom in such a relationship, because the primary goal is security and control. That security and control is the illusion of a self centered reality. Because we cannot accept the actual reality of life which is insecurity, we cannot live fully in the moment. We use the sex act as a means of escape from the truth of what is. What happens during coitus, orgasm? Psychologically at the moment of release, the self is not, the other is not, there is nothingness save the emptiness of that moment. In that moment one is totally free. But afterward the self reasserts as thought begins its movement.


We are essentially pure energy that is seeking an outlet. We want to control that energy, to channel it. But the mind is caught up in a conditioned state of self promotion that leads only to conflict and violence. When two people have realized the true self, a consciousness that is unconditioned, then there is the possibility of sexual communion. Then the sex act becomes something that transcends physicality. It is the selfless union of two entities that become one with existence. The two "are" love, one entity that is without reason or motivation. They require nothing of one another. There is only the freedom of the absolute moment, the unconditioned. It is passion and love that is without a self that is seeking. The emptiness of the truly sacred.