Love Without Neurosis

The human mind is filled with ideas about relationships and the way that they should transpire. We are largely dysfunctional when it comes to understanding the source of our own struggles with relationship and love. A person has to start with the self that is a defined individual with desires and aspirations. We seek to fulfill an image of the ideal that is the result of our experience and environment. If it is possible for you to be aware of your own movement in time as a being that is seeking an image then one may be able to realize the truth of the moment. A person may be able to realize the futility of seeking fulfillment in the projected image of that which is outside the self. All humanity exist in relationship yet we never fully understand the psychological implications of our interconnectedness. So relationships become a neurotic attachment of the self that is seeking fulfillment in the other. This seeking of fulfillment is what we call love. Yet how can the truth of love be a requirement of the self that is seeking? Surely one is just looking for a conditional relationship that fulfills a desire. So one loves as long as the "other" meets ones conditions for a continued relationship. Those conditions are ones neurosis.

The mind is constantly on the prowl for that which will give it what it desires. But what it desires is the ideal, which is the fantasy of a mind in transition. Because one is incapable of self fulfillment one seeks the illusion of an outside relationship that will satisfy desires. The conditions of that relationship are the neurosis of ones accumulated self image. Then how is it possible to realize love that is not a product of ones neurotic self? It is important to realize that one who lives in the illusion of self image will never find a satisfying relationship. One must first realize the true self that is absent the duality of a mind that is seeking. Then love is not something that is acquired. It is part of ones being, an inseparable element of a mind that is at peace with existence.

If you are love then all your relationships are without condition. You love, because you are in the absolute moment in which there is only the eternal unconditioned consciousness that is free of all projected image. Which means you are without judgment, opinion or conclusion. It is the dissipation of the ego/self which the basis for all illusion. Now one is free from the neurosis of ones fears and anxieties. One may be able to see directly that one must be vulnerable to life in order to love, to accept and to give of ones self without prejudice.

Nuerotic love is the conditional illusion of a self absorbed individuality that is lost in the demands of sensory desire. So it is not really love at all it is simply expansion of self image at the expense of another. Only a person that is free of attachment and desire can truly love. It is the unconditional acceptance of the reality of the moment.